小編：心態(tài)決定人生的高度，快樂取決于看問題的角度。心中有燃燒的火焰，就會釋放出溫暖和熱情；心中是冰塊，就算融化了也是寒涼。做一個積極正面思考的人，用正能量面對世事，決心和毅力必不可少，希望下面這些建議幫到你。

1. Change your self-monitoring:

改變自我監(jiān)督

Instead of selectively attending to negative events, focus on the positive ones. Then pay attention to the delayed consequences of your behavior rather than the immediate ones. For example, if a job is not going like you want, focus on the fact that you have a job and how you can take your time to make the situation better.

與其選擇做那些消極的事情，不如集中做些積極的吧。然后看看你的行為之后的效果。不是立竿見影的那種。比如，如果工作不是很喜歡，就記住你有一份工作的事實，專注如何能把情況變得好點。

2. Change your self-reinforcement:

改變自我獎勵機制：

If you have low rates of self-reward and high rates of self-punishment when it comes to certain aspects of your life, then you want to modify this. For example, think more of how far you've come, how hard you've worked, acknowledge yourself for it and then see how much further you want to go.

如果你對自己獎勵很少懲罰很多，而這似乎已成為一種慣性時，是時候改變一下了。比如，多想想你已經(jīng)達到哪些成就，多么努力地工作，獎勵一下自己，然后看看你還能走多遠。

3. Draw conclusions with evidence:

根據(jù)事實得出結(jié)論：

Look at the evidence, look at the events, look at patterns and don't base your conclusions on assumptions. For example, don't just assume someone will cheat you because they look like or in some ways act like an ex you didn't get along with. Look at other elements to see if there is any evidence for your assumption.

根據(jù)事實得出結(jié)論：看看事實，看看事件，看看形式，千萬別把結(jié)論基于猜想上。比如，不要因為某些人看起來像在騙你或是表現(xiàn)的讓你覺得不怎么舒服，就認為他們的確在騙你?？纯从袥]有其他證據(jù)能證實你的觀點吧。

4. Don't be that individual:

別把事情過分個人化：

The majority of how people interact with you is due to their own personality, strengths, and baggage and does not have as much to do with you. Pay attention to how to differentiate between different interaction signals. For example, instead of immediately getting frustrated because the waitress was a little late attending to you, think that maybe she is having a really tough day or too may tables to take care of.

大部分時候人們?nèi)绾魏湍憬煌既Q于他們的個性、能力和精神狀態(tài)，和你其實沒多大關(guān)系。注意如何區(qū)分不同的交際信號。比如，與其為遲來的服務(wù)生感到生氣，不如換位思考，想想他今天心情不好，或者實在是太忙了吧。

5. Don't do emotional reasoning:

不要太情緒化

This is a belief based on feeling alone without any rational thinking behind it. For example, you don't like such and such but you don't have any logical reason for not liking them.

沖動是魔鬼，這句話的確是是真理。例如，你總是沒來由的不喜歡一些東西。